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In all daily life events, interactions and decisions we follow our inner "I know it's right". Hopefully, not compromising selves while chased by hunger for things that define us in the surroundings as successful, accomplished, "comfortable to be with" social beings. Unfortunately, such pressure can be so immense that even ones' love of self (or self-definition) may go through a treacherous revisions at the price of lost individuality and, possibly, high probe standards. The stronger characters have higher chances of preserving integrity. The stronger characters are developed with gentle, loving, affirming and wise parenting in caring families. Therefore, this site is dedicated to parents, children and families at large.

Out of all things that parents can give to their children, a single, most important gift that will be with them forever, regardless of place and time, and determine their future life is a gift of LOVE. If a child knows he/she is loved unconditionally, regardless of success or less, merits or demerits, a sense of acceptance, self-appreciation, self-respect and self-satisfaction will become an anchoring point that, to great extent, will guide them through their lives. Here comes the hardest and never ending job of being a parent. Because only by using the right measure of everything one may come up with the secret perfect recipe for raising apt, happy and responsible children. And the “right measure” is an always floating scale from family to family, from place to place, from child to child and even from time to time. If your are already a parent, may GOD give your heart a wisdom to understand your children, guide you in your dealings with them, and give you patience in your hard job of dedicated parenting.

Why there is such an emphasis on "Self" one may wonder. I believe that self-perception, self-definition will last as long as we do. Just as we breathe, and think, so do we exist in the world by placing ourselves in our daily life. And our judgement of selves is usually the most objective. Along with such judgement, self-esteem and self-respect comes the respect towards the life and living things next to us, respect and care for the place we live in, the community we live in, and everything else that we call our life. Even when one is trying not to be true to him/herself, they still have knowledge of it in some corner of their hearts. We cannot get away from ourselves even for a moment. Perhaps, people should be aware that long-term compomising of selves or "a grand-compromise" will dent their "comfort" and "likeness" of being such selves.

GOD Hath given to people a seed of conciense that allows to differentiate right from wrong. Even from the very birth and early childhood, humans are very apt and gifted in sensing and "gut-feeling" the rights and wrongs. With growth and development, such "sensor" is to be evolved to see facets of life and formulate an opinion about things that one cares for or is inclined not to be indifferent.

What comes after self? I believe that after establishing self comes dedicating self, or giving self towards what you have an affection for, or believe that it is right: be it a cause, or somebody special, or things one likes to do. Self would become part of something bigger that one belongs to. And self will have a joy of belonging to, living with, walking along, being thankful and being appreciated. As if there was an answer to a question: "What did you do with your most precious gift - life? How did you spend it?"

I believe that we got our lives to give. Give to people, cause, community we care for. This is why having a compass of your life is the most valuable tool/skill/mottow to go through the life, sometimes, a day at the time. It is, probably, the most bitter feeling of realizing of the wasted time or wasted life.

Please, check your compass. Tune it if you know it could do better. If you are happy with it, and you know it will do just as well to the young ones of your own, give them that skill of navigating through life so that they would be able to look back and say: "I lived. I loved. I gave. I believed. I made it through. I still preserved my integrity. I still am whom GOD wanted me to be."

The remembrance of Deity and adherence to the immortal all-enduring truths will be the cementing, bonding agent, shield, light and guide through the turbulence of Life.

Even after children left their home and started families of their own, from time to time a reminder of who they are may ease the pressure, un-tap the faucet of confidence in judgment and proceedings in daily abouts.

Right amount or measure of interaction in games, discipline, moral and spiritual feeding, encouragement,  teachings and other communications will go long way to establish life long friendship and spiritual bonds in the families, starting as a parent-children bridge, that will later become sibling-sibling bridge.  It will be passed on to the next generations of accomplished individuals.